Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2023 21:25:58 GMT -5
How to feel better after being rejected, hurt, betrayed
by Dominic McClintock
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What I think...is not important
How I understand/perceive about the event that caused me very hurtful pains.....is very important
What is the different?
Thinking is just random thoughts, like a day dream, means nothing
Understanding, processing, perception,
letting it (whatever trigger/event/damage) effect you
THAT is more important.
Why did they hurt me?
What did I do wrong?
How did I hurt them?
How did I deserve this?
There is a principle to note
principle of healing
principle of forgiveness
principle of forgetting the past
principle of not holding the grudge,burden
knowing is not enough
doing is what is we are after
how to "put it behind us"
how to "live with it"
what exactly is it?
Do I see "it" as a harm done to me?
Do I see "it" as an injustice?
Perhaps both are true
Perhaps both are not
let's assume both are true, "it" harmed me and "it" was injustice to me
Here is how to put it behind you
make a decision
make an active decision to "put it behind you"
not, wishing ill-will on them, anyone can do that, a simple revenge is not smart and will not recover anything
but this
wanting the best for them
all the mental healing
all the emotional healing
all the purity
all the good gifts of life
just letting that be to them, as you would want them to do to you
that is the golden rule
'do unto others as you would have them do unto you'
now, they don't deserve it, they hurt you,
now, they will not talk, to you, they ignore and refuse you and maybe consider you like dung
like dung? ? yes, like dung,
are you dung?
no, you are not, you know you are not, but they act "as if" you are.
This is not anything you can change
This is not anything you can control
This is not anything you can influence
It's really "up to them" and "let it be"
Do you know that is true?
Don't you feel better that it's them that are holding the grudge, against you
Don't you feel better that it's them that are "unforgiving", against you
so,
you forgive
you let it go
you be free of them
let God do whatever God wants with them
If God sees them and knows them, will God not do what is right?
Yes, He will, so I can let it go, and trust in Him for what?
Them to be "dealt" with, in a merciful way or a wrathful way.
If that is the case, why do I feel like it's "my job" or "my burden" when it's not even, and I'm encouraged to let it go
But they hurt me and they effect me, I have to deal with them day by day, I can't escape them
You will be given power from above to accept it, and God will be with you through this hard time.
You are not alone when you are in hard times, we all go through it, even the one who is hurting you.
What if they were hurt by "someone else" (not you, but in times past) and now they "hurt others", so they are "sick" in a way and now, are not able to "let go and be your friend anymore"
What if that,
If that is the case, and I believe it is, why do I need to need "their approval and their love" when I got already unconditional love, that fills me, and is enough for me.
It is enough, contentment, with what I have.
Being content and not trying to build my kingdom or riches on this world,
Being content, God is enough for me
But what if they also believe in God and still are this way
Wouldn't it be tempting for me to "hold the law against them?"
Honestly, yes, I can say "hey, the law, or the Bible says this, but you are that?"
What if they did that, "Hey, dominic, the Bible says this and you are that" and
now we are at odds,
now we are holding grudges
what is that going to profit?
nothing, nobody wins
someone has to decide, so let it be you, and you decide to let it go, let them be and it will be ok
wish them off and wish them the best,
want them to be healed, as you want to be healed
isn't that kind of like "do unto others would you would like others to do unto you?"
isn't what what I need? healing?
what if I am not willing to let go
what if I am not able to?
will you say "let them let go of their grudge against me, but let me hold a grudge against them?"
it doesn't sound good for them to be free from their burden while I hold on to mine, so be the first to settle the matter inside your heart and mind.
it's time to let it go :)
wish them the best
see them now in a new lens
a lens of love and forgiveness
by Dominic McClintock
=======================================================
What I think...is not important
How I understand/perceive about the event that caused me very hurtful pains.....is very important
What is the different?
Thinking is just random thoughts, like a day dream, means nothing
Understanding, processing, perception,
letting it (whatever trigger/event/damage) effect you
THAT is more important.
Why did they hurt me?
What did I do wrong?
How did I hurt them?
How did I deserve this?
There is a principle to note
principle of healing
principle of forgiveness
principle of forgetting the past
principle of not holding the grudge,burden
knowing is not enough
doing is what is we are after
how to "put it behind us"
how to "live with it"
what exactly is it?
Do I see "it" as a harm done to me?
Do I see "it" as an injustice?
Perhaps both are true
Perhaps both are not
let's assume both are true, "it" harmed me and "it" was injustice to me
Here is how to put it behind you
make a decision
make an active decision to "put it behind you"
not, wishing ill-will on them, anyone can do that, a simple revenge is not smart and will not recover anything
but this
wanting the best for them
all the mental healing
all the emotional healing
all the purity
all the good gifts of life
just letting that be to them, as you would want them to do to you
that is the golden rule
'do unto others as you would have them do unto you'
now, they don't deserve it, they hurt you,
now, they will not talk, to you, they ignore and refuse you and maybe consider you like dung
like dung? ? yes, like dung,
are you dung?
no, you are not, you know you are not, but they act "as if" you are.
This is not anything you can change
This is not anything you can control
This is not anything you can influence
It's really "up to them" and "let it be"
Do you know that is true?
Don't you feel better that it's them that are holding the grudge, against you
Don't you feel better that it's them that are "unforgiving", against you
so,
you forgive
you let it go
you be free of them
let God do whatever God wants with them
If God sees them and knows them, will God not do what is right?
Yes, He will, so I can let it go, and trust in Him for what?
Them to be "dealt" with, in a merciful way or a wrathful way.
If that is the case, why do I feel like it's "my job" or "my burden" when it's not even, and I'm encouraged to let it go
But they hurt me and they effect me, I have to deal with them day by day, I can't escape them
You will be given power from above to accept it, and God will be with you through this hard time.
You are not alone when you are in hard times, we all go through it, even the one who is hurting you.
What if they were hurt by "someone else" (not you, but in times past) and now they "hurt others", so they are "sick" in a way and now, are not able to "let go and be your friend anymore"
What if that,
If that is the case, and I believe it is, why do I need to need "their approval and their love" when I got already unconditional love, that fills me, and is enough for me.
It is enough, contentment, with what I have.
Being content and not trying to build my kingdom or riches on this world,
Being content, God is enough for me
But what if they also believe in God and still are this way
Wouldn't it be tempting for me to "hold the law against them?"
Honestly, yes, I can say "hey, the law, or the Bible says this, but you are that?"
What if they did that, "Hey, dominic, the Bible says this and you are that" and
now we are at odds,
now we are holding grudges
what is that going to profit?
nothing, nobody wins
someone has to decide, so let it be you, and you decide to let it go, let them be and it will be ok
wish them off and wish them the best,
want them to be healed, as you want to be healed
isn't that kind of like "do unto others would you would like others to do unto you?"
isn't what what I need? healing?
what if I am not willing to let go
what if I am not able to?
will you say "let them let go of their grudge against me, but let me hold a grudge against them?"
it doesn't sound good for them to be free from their burden while I hold on to mine, so be the first to settle the matter inside your heart and mind.
it's time to let it go :)
wish them the best
see them now in a new lens
a lens of love and forgiveness
!!
