Post by Cindy on Aug 27, 2015 12:54:03 GMT -5
Although not everyone has a chronic illness or lives with chronic pain, stress causes problems for all of us. Sometimes the problems are also physical, as in my case, but they're always spiritual, as well as mental and emotional as well. What the Lord has shown me about this is for everyone, regardless of whether they live with pain or not.
I'd started to let stuff get to me the other day, so I asked Bruce to take over the cooking for me for a few days at least. I could tell that I needed to really concentrate on resting in order to prevent a bad flare up from the RA/Sjögren's. Well, I was a day late and a dollar short as the saying goes. By the time I woke up yesterday it had hit with a vengeance. Of course that made me feel even more down, and the worse I felt mentally/emotionally, the worse the pain got. It was like I was getting a crash course on seeing exactly how my body reacted to stress and my emotions. So I spent a lot of time with the Lord and that calmed me down, but the damage was already done. I'll have to just deal with this flare up, but I've learned a lot from what the Lord showed me concerning it.
I now know for absolute sure that the only chance I have of preventing the pain and being comfortable, is if I keep myself totally stress free. This is going to be a very interesting experiment for the next few months because although we can control our reactions and emotions, we can't control what happens to us. What the Lord showed me was that what happens to us, even when we control our thoughts and emotions, can still cause the flare ups and or just extra pain. That showed me that just controlling those things wasn't enough. Stress affects us all regardless of whether or not we see the results of it in our physical bodies. Being able to see the results in my body, has been helpful to teach me just how important it is to do things God's way. We can't change it when we or a loved one has money problems, gets sick or dies, loses their job, or what the government does, etc. The only thing we can control is how we react to them, our emotions and feelings. When this happened, I was thinking that since we can't control what happens, and that by itself is stress, then it was a lost cause, but the Lord has shown me that it's really not!
Let's look at what Paul says: “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:11–13) If we can really do what Paul did, (be content in any circumstances) and be strong in our faith, then we'll no longer have to even consider how we respond to events in our life.
Before, I always looked at it as though the circumstance happened, then Paul saw it and dealt with it by being content. But that's not it, that's only half of it. Paul's saying he's already content and he stays content even when the "event" happens. So while I was being content, then interrupted by the event, reacting to it by taking my thoughts captive and replacing them with the Truth, and then going back to being content, I was opening myself up to the stress, which caused the flare ups. See what I mean?
The problem was/is that although I know that God is sovereign, that He loves me and that all will work out for my good, there's always a part of me that has reacted to "bad" things by thinking, "yeah, but I don't like what He's allowing to happen." With the next thoughts generally being along the lines of "is He mad at me, have I done something wrong, etc.". All of which I know is bologna, because I know I'm not living in unrepentant sin and am doing my best to apply His Word to my life daily as I study each day. Because taking my thoughts captive and replacing them with the truth, became second nature to me, those thoughts are no longer generally conscious thoughts, but I can tell they're still there subconsciously. That tells me that somewhere deep inside, I'm doubting His love and goodness.
Taking my thoughts and feelings captive whenever we notice any that don't line up with God's Word, is certainly the scriptural remedy, but it looks like the Lord is taking me beyond that now and wants me to get down to the root of it all. He's asking me to really trust Him - with ALL my heart, mind, and strength, and not just part of it. 95% isn't enough. It's got to be 100%. That's what He asks of all of us. It's not that He wants me or you to stop taking those wrong thoughts captive, but rather that He also wants us to work at the root of the problem.
When we can do that, then life will be like it was when we were a small child. As a child, I didn't worry about if the lights would turn on when I flicked a switch, or if there's be something to eat when I was hungry, or if my parents would be there tomorrow, or how I would get to grandma's house that week. I knew my parents had it all under control and it simply never occurred to me to worry about anything. Well, unless it was a selfish thing like which flavor of ice cream we had. I knew the ice cream would be there, but would it be the kind I wanted that day? I wish I could say I didn't have that problem anymore, but I do, so that's another thing I'll have to continue to work on too. But, back then, if the lights didn't come on, I figured my parents planned it that way and it was a great adventure, a new game. I didn't see it as a bad thing. I knew everything would be fine no matter what happened.
Of course as I grew up, I learned differently, that my parents weren't in control of everything and bad things did happen. We all learn that. That's the part we have to overcome now though, and go back to being that simple little child that totally trusts my Daddy. Nothing "bad" is going to happen to me, because He simply won't allow it to. Therefore, anything that does happen, isn't really bad, regardless of what it looks like to the world. Just like Paul says: “What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” (Romans 8:31–32) Certainly, things are going to happen that won't look "good" to us. In fact, they'll appear to be "bad". Whether it's the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, not having enough money to pay the bills, losing the house, or anything we might consider bad, those kind of things will and do happen to us. We don't need to pretend that they won't, or that they haven't. That's not the point. The point is in how we view them when they do happen. We have to realize that God is in control and that because He really does love us, and because He's in control, that this fits into His master plan for us and will in some way, some how, turn out to be for our good in the long run. Many children hate to go to school, but it's for their good and will help them have a better life in the future. Many hate getting injections, but they protect them from disease. If asked, those children would say those were bad things, but the parents know better because they can see further. It's the same with our Heavenly Father. He doesn't want or like it when we're hurting, but He knows that it will turn out for our good and actually help us in the future He has planned for us. So when I say God simply won't allow anything that's really "bad" to happen to us, I mean that there's nothing that can happen to us that He can't change and use for our good, so that ultimately it will help us and not hurt us. See what I mean?
We can see it as kind of a combination of living by faith and not by sight, and being like a little child. When I can really do that, then nothing will be able to shake me, just as nothing shook Paul. Of course I can't possibly do it on my own, but only with the Lord's help. Thankfully, as He said, His strength is made perfect in my weakness, so I know that together we can pull it off! The bottom line seems to be truly trusting God and His love for us and of course His Word. It's also true that the better we know His Word and Him, the more our trust and faith will grow. So knowing His Word is imperative. While this transformation won't happen for any of us overnight, it is something that can happen. We can have that kind of faith and trust in God if we're willing to work on it with His help. For me, I think it's going to take a conscious decision to work toward this, to choose to remember His love for me and that He is taking care of me no matter what things look like, and choose to believe that it's all going to be just fine. I love how the first part of Isaiah 30:15 puts it: “This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength” We can choose to rest in God, quietly, without striving to "fix things" our self, and wait patiently to see the wonders He will perform for us, or we can choose not to and continue to live with stress and all it's ill effects. This makes me immediately think of the verse about a weaned child as that's a symbol of contentment. “But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me.” (Psalm 131:2) Let me share what some commentaries say about this:
The original Hebrew records this statement in the form of an oath. From what had the psalmist been weaned? Self-sufficiency, self-will, self-seeking. From creatures and the things of the world—not, indeed, as to their use, but as to any dependence upon them for his happiness and portion. KJV Bible Commentary
David has been trained to trust God to supply his needs as a weaned child trusts his mother. The MacArthur study Bible
The correct way to hope and wait for the Lord is to steadfastly expect His mercy, His salvation, and His rescue, and while waiting, not take matters into one’s own hand. Hayfords Bible Handbook
He no longer felt torn apart by inner nagging & turmoil. He had come to terms with himself & thus experienced inner peace. He used a metaphor easily understood by mothers to describe his new found serenity. A child that is weaned no longer struggles for milk when held on its mother’s breast, but this would also be true of a baby that has been satisfied with the mother’s milk. However, the picture is one of contentment, regardless of age. The psalmist advised Israel to trust in the Lord & not to depend on themselves. Only then would God’s people know true serenity, security, & contentment. The Woman’s Study Bible
This is a picture of what we need to be like, like a weaned child, totally content and trusting our God. Let's choose to work toward that today!
2 Corinthians 5:7–8 —We live by faith, not by sight. *We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. *
2 Corinthians 12:9 —But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. *
Mark 10:15 —I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” *
Matthew 19:14 —Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” *
I'd started to let stuff get to me the other day, so I asked Bruce to take over the cooking for me for a few days at least. I could tell that I needed to really concentrate on resting in order to prevent a bad flare up from the RA/Sjögren's. Well, I was a day late and a dollar short as the saying goes. By the time I woke up yesterday it had hit with a vengeance. Of course that made me feel even more down, and the worse I felt mentally/emotionally, the worse the pain got. It was like I was getting a crash course on seeing exactly how my body reacted to stress and my emotions. So I spent a lot of time with the Lord and that calmed me down, but the damage was already done. I'll have to just deal with this flare up, but I've learned a lot from what the Lord showed me concerning it.
I now know for absolute sure that the only chance I have of preventing the pain and being comfortable, is if I keep myself totally stress free. This is going to be a very interesting experiment for the next few months because although we can control our reactions and emotions, we can't control what happens to us. What the Lord showed me was that what happens to us, even when we control our thoughts and emotions, can still cause the flare ups and or just extra pain. That showed me that just controlling those things wasn't enough. Stress affects us all regardless of whether or not we see the results of it in our physical bodies. Being able to see the results in my body, has been helpful to teach me just how important it is to do things God's way. We can't change it when we or a loved one has money problems, gets sick or dies, loses their job, or what the government does, etc. The only thing we can control is how we react to them, our emotions and feelings. When this happened, I was thinking that since we can't control what happens, and that by itself is stress, then it was a lost cause, but the Lord has shown me that it's really not!
Let's look at what Paul says: “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:11–13) If we can really do what Paul did, (be content in any circumstances) and be strong in our faith, then we'll no longer have to even consider how we respond to events in our life.
Before, I always looked at it as though the circumstance happened, then Paul saw it and dealt with it by being content. But that's not it, that's only half of it. Paul's saying he's already content and he stays content even when the "event" happens. So while I was being content, then interrupted by the event, reacting to it by taking my thoughts captive and replacing them with the Truth, and then going back to being content, I was opening myself up to the stress, which caused the flare ups. See what I mean?
The problem was/is that although I know that God is sovereign, that He loves me and that all will work out for my good, there's always a part of me that has reacted to "bad" things by thinking, "yeah, but I don't like what He's allowing to happen." With the next thoughts generally being along the lines of "is He mad at me, have I done something wrong, etc.". All of which I know is bologna, because I know I'm not living in unrepentant sin and am doing my best to apply His Word to my life daily as I study each day. Because taking my thoughts captive and replacing them with the truth, became second nature to me, those thoughts are no longer generally conscious thoughts, but I can tell they're still there subconsciously. That tells me that somewhere deep inside, I'm doubting His love and goodness.
Taking my thoughts and feelings captive whenever we notice any that don't line up with God's Word, is certainly the scriptural remedy, but it looks like the Lord is taking me beyond that now and wants me to get down to the root of it all. He's asking me to really trust Him - with ALL my heart, mind, and strength, and not just part of it. 95% isn't enough. It's got to be 100%. That's what He asks of all of us. It's not that He wants me or you to stop taking those wrong thoughts captive, but rather that He also wants us to work at the root of the problem.
When we can do that, then life will be like it was when we were a small child. As a child, I didn't worry about if the lights would turn on when I flicked a switch, or if there's be something to eat when I was hungry, or if my parents would be there tomorrow, or how I would get to grandma's house that week. I knew my parents had it all under control and it simply never occurred to me to worry about anything. Well, unless it was a selfish thing like which flavor of ice cream we had. I knew the ice cream would be there, but would it be the kind I wanted that day? I wish I could say I didn't have that problem anymore, but I do, so that's another thing I'll have to continue to work on too. But, back then, if the lights didn't come on, I figured my parents planned it that way and it was a great adventure, a new game. I didn't see it as a bad thing. I knew everything would be fine no matter what happened.
Of course as I grew up, I learned differently, that my parents weren't in control of everything and bad things did happen. We all learn that. That's the part we have to overcome now though, and go back to being that simple little child that totally trusts my Daddy. Nothing "bad" is going to happen to me, because He simply won't allow it to. Therefore, anything that does happen, isn't really bad, regardless of what it looks like to the world. Just like Paul says: “What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” (Romans 8:31–32) Certainly, things are going to happen that won't look "good" to us. In fact, they'll appear to be "bad". Whether it's the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, not having enough money to pay the bills, losing the house, or anything we might consider bad, those kind of things will and do happen to us. We don't need to pretend that they won't, or that they haven't. That's not the point. The point is in how we view them when they do happen. We have to realize that God is in control and that because He really does love us, and because He's in control, that this fits into His master plan for us and will in some way, some how, turn out to be for our good in the long run. Many children hate to go to school, but it's for their good and will help them have a better life in the future. Many hate getting injections, but they protect them from disease. If asked, those children would say those were bad things, but the parents know better because they can see further. It's the same with our Heavenly Father. He doesn't want or like it when we're hurting, but He knows that it will turn out for our good and actually help us in the future He has planned for us. So when I say God simply won't allow anything that's really "bad" to happen to us, I mean that there's nothing that can happen to us that He can't change and use for our good, so that ultimately it will help us and not hurt us. See what I mean?
We can see it as kind of a combination of living by faith and not by sight, and being like a little child. When I can really do that, then nothing will be able to shake me, just as nothing shook Paul. Of course I can't possibly do it on my own, but only with the Lord's help. Thankfully, as He said, His strength is made perfect in my weakness, so I know that together we can pull it off! The bottom line seems to be truly trusting God and His love for us and of course His Word. It's also true that the better we know His Word and Him, the more our trust and faith will grow. So knowing His Word is imperative. While this transformation won't happen for any of us overnight, it is something that can happen. We can have that kind of faith and trust in God if we're willing to work on it with His help. For me, I think it's going to take a conscious decision to work toward this, to choose to remember His love for me and that He is taking care of me no matter what things look like, and choose to believe that it's all going to be just fine. I love how the first part of Isaiah 30:15 puts it: “This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength” We can choose to rest in God, quietly, without striving to "fix things" our self, and wait patiently to see the wonders He will perform for us, or we can choose not to and continue to live with stress and all it's ill effects. This makes me immediately think of the verse about a weaned child as that's a symbol of contentment. “But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me.” (Psalm 131:2) Let me share what some commentaries say about this:
The original Hebrew records this statement in the form of an oath. From what had the psalmist been weaned? Self-sufficiency, self-will, self-seeking. From creatures and the things of the world—not, indeed, as to their use, but as to any dependence upon them for his happiness and portion. KJV Bible Commentary
David has been trained to trust God to supply his needs as a weaned child trusts his mother. The MacArthur study Bible
The correct way to hope and wait for the Lord is to steadfastly expect His mercy, His salvation, and His rescue, and while waiting, not take matters into one’s own hand. Hayfords Bible Handbook
He no longer felt torn apart by inner nagging & turmoil. He had come to terms with himself & thus experienced inner peace. He used a metaphor easily understood by mothers to describe his new found serenity. A child that is weaned no longer struggles for milk when held on its mother’s breast, but this would also be true of a baby that has been satisfied with the mother’s milk. However, the picture is one of contentment, regardless of age. The psalmist advised Israel to trust in the Lord & not to depend on themselves. Only then would God’s people know true serenity, security, & contentment. The Woman’s Study Bible
This is a picture of what we need to be like, like a weaned child, totally content and trusting our God. Let's choose to work toward that today!
2 Corinthians 5:7–8 —We live by faith, not by sight. *We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. *
2 Corinthians 12:9 —But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. *
Mark 10:15 —I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” *
Matthew 19:14 —Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” *