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Post by fearnot on Feb 22, 2017 13:41:02 GMT -5
Still praying for you Ruthanne.
I was struck by what you said that your family can't understand that there are people on the net that can care.
On the one hand, I can understand their thoughts, for sure there are a lot of uncaring people on the net....but there are uncaring people everywhere..in real life that one can see and touch.
It used to be eons ago, LOL that people used to have pen pals they never saw,
but wrote to each other over the years,
and came to love their friend
( I have to admit to even crying having 'fallen in love with a character in a book')!!!
The thing is people on the net are...
ta dah....'
people' .....
at least so far....
maybe an AI ( artificial intelligence) or two....
but it seems that so far, real people have discovered them right away ( artificial intelligences) , and messed with them, so much that it was really really funny.
I don't think we even have to consider that at all!!
But I have to say this, about that....online friendships
I have to say, Cindy ( my online Christian friend) has helped me more than I could ever ever say.....I would be sooooo far back, or not have made any or hardly any progress in my walk with Jesus without her endless encouragement and on a very rare occasion very caring rebuke.
All at a great cost to her own comfort and dealing with great pain.
But I wonder if your family understands about the old fashion pen pals.... some of which even lead to a romance, where people who never saw each other ( a man and a woman pen pal) fell in love, all thru letters over the years ( today's e-mails, texts etc) and met in person got married.
Not like the web sites where people scroll thru a big list looking for certain traits they think they want....
no the old fashion pen pals had years of communication.
All to say, you are my sister in Christ tho I have never met you and I do love and care about you.
Can they not see that we have not asked you for money or any other nefarious thing?
I can't think of a more loving caring person than Cindy and Cheryl has been sooooo supportive and loving, she cares very much for you.
I hope I am not sounding angry at your family. I am not. I do understand they worry and care about you....but this group has know you for a long time not, and we are not some flash in the pan LOL
But most important of all, we all Love our Lord Jesus and that is what makes the real difference.
I guess, I do get a little ( LOL) protective of Cindy, and Cheryl and Mark, etc etc.
I just wish they could know we really care about you, love you as our sister in Christ, and our prays are for the Lord to be with you and comfort you and heal you.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2017 7:08:02 GMT -5
Hi Ruthanne! I just got your message to call you, so I missed that call, sorry. It's 6am the next day, right now. And no..........I haven't been to bed yet. I posted in trials and that took me several hours to get through. So, I didn't sleep. I need to lay down for a little while though.
I'm glad to know that the nurse is being so attentive with you, after the way they treated you at the hospital. Call me when you need to, sis. I'm here. And if my machine picks up, know that I'll call you back as soon as I get the message. 
Coming back to edit. Hey when I get over there to visit you, and meet your family, can I tell them that I am one of those "internet people" LOL huh? huh? can I, huh? LOL
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Post by dogstaff on Feb 23, 2017 14:32:52 GMT -5
Fearnot and Cheryl - Great posts! Very well put.
I'm old enough to remember pen pals. I had one in France and one in Kenya.
Beautiful day here. I'm on the patio, my favorite place.
Hugs to all.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2017 16:27:24 GMT -5
I do have to come back and post in defense of Ruthanne's son and his wife, though. They know who we are....well, at least the ones who call her and visit with her over the phone. I think she was actually referring to the siblings and inlaws. Correct me if I'm wrong, Ruthanne.
Ruthanne told me something, a few days ago, that made me feel so good. She said that her daughter in law had seen a post of mine, where I said that Ed had fluid build up on his left lung, and I took him to the ER and the surgeon drained a lot of fluid from him and it saved him from having a collapsed lung. And Ruthanne was having the same symptoms, and my post was what made her DIL put her foot down, and take her to the ER. There were no if's and's or but's about it, she was going and that was that. 
And it WAS the same thing, but Ruthanne had way more than Ed did.
So, I don't think her kids think we are the "internet people". But, that's OK. Ruthanne knows the truth and that is what counts.
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Post by Brother Mark on Feb 23, 2017 19:48:59 GMT -5
Good News is Ruthanne, your coming along. Praise God. Lifting you up in Prayer, in Jesus' name, Amen.
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Post by Brother Mark on Feb 25, 2017 1:34:28 GMT -5
Ruthanne, I hope you had a better day. We are continuing to keep you in our prayers. Prayers Going Up, in Jesus' name, Amen.
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Post by Brother Mark on Feb 26, 2017 4:23:36 GMT -5
Praying for Ruthanne. Take care and God Bless.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2017 22:18:57 GMT -5
UPDATE:
Ruthanne is still not doing well. She keeps having fluid build up on her lungs. She's now gone in 3 times to have the fluid drained. They told her that she has 2 more times, they will drain the fluid as an outpatient, and if it continues, then they will hospitalize her and put in a tube. She does not want this and is refusing this option and can't get anyone to listen to her. They don't give her the pain meds and make her lay on her back. And that makes her pain level way worse. She needs continued prayer. And thank you.
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Post by Brother Mark on Mar 1, 2017 0:05:30 GMT -5
Ruthanne, please listen to your doctor's. Continuing to keep you in our prayers.
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Post by Cindy on Mar 1, 2017 11:35:52 GMT -5
Praying
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Post by bystillwaters on Mar 2, 2017 8:13:17 GMT -5
We are praying for you and for your health and for family... Praying in the Name of Jesus Christ... He is our Peace Maker and our Salvation... Amen...
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Post by Brother Mark on Mar 2, 2017 9:15:09 GMT -5
Praying for your pain to go away and for your recovery. In Jesus' name, I pray, Amen.
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Post by dogstaff on Mar 2, 2017 17:12:38 GMT -5
Praying for Ruthanne. Praying for her doctors to have wisdom for the best treatment for her.
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Post by fearnot on Mar 3, 2017 12:26:57 GMT -5
Praying for Ruthanne.
If she has to go to hospital how long do they estimate she would have to be there and do they think it would solve the problem once and for all?
Thank you for the update Cheryl.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2017 5:06:37 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I forgot to come in here and give y'all and update, after I spoke with Ruthanne, last night.
Now I hope I remember what all she asked me to tell you. She can sometimes sit and read the posts, but she can't sit in her computer chair for very long, before her legs and feet swell up. But, know that she is reading and she is very thankful for all the prayers. And that reminds me, now, what it was that she wanted me to tell all of you.
She said that because of our prayers, the Lord put it into her heart to do exactly what the doctor suggests, and to ask all the right questions, so that she isn't afraid to go back in, if it should come to that.
She still has two more times that she will need to go in and have the fluid buildup drained. And if it keeps being a lot of it, they will have no choice but to insert a drain tube on her lung. But, each time she goes in, it's less and less, so Lord willing, she will not have to be hospitalized. She is still in a LOT of pain, but most of her pain is from her chronic pain, although she is still having pain where the scars are. She has several incisions on her legs and of course her chest incision, and the chest bone.
Barbara, in response to your questions, the time she'd have to be there, all depends on how her healing goes. And it also depends on her healing process, whether draining it will take care of it, once and for all. When it happened to Ed, he was still in the hospital, so they did hook him up with a machine that drained the fluid off his lung. This is fluid that builds up, outside the lung, and left untreated, will cause the lung to collapse. Ed was on the machine for an entire day. After he got home, I had to take him back in because the left lung had the same problem and they drained 7ml of fluid in an outpatient procedure, by inserting a tube through his back and draining it that way. The same as what they are doing with Ruthanne. After Ed's second draining, it never happened again. So, everyone is different.
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Post by oliverwithatwist on Mar 4, 2017 8:27:55 GMT -5
Keeping Ruthanne in prayer.
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Post by fearnot on Mar 4, 2017 13:07:28 GMT -5
Thank you so much for the info Cheryl.
All this time I was thinking the fluid was in her lungs and I was wondering how it was exactly related to her heart.
But the way you explained it helped a lot.
So is the fluid build up then from the body reacting to the surgery to her heart?
I am trying to understand why there is fluid build up in the first place, I am thinking it might be like if I took a needle and continued to poke a hole in my finger, and then stopped, the body would start immediate repairs, but part of that might involved my finger swelling, getting red ( and of course maybe infection)?
Is it anything like that? It would seem baring a massive infection, with time, the fluid will stop because the body will have finished its repairs??
In any case, I will continue to pray for Ruthanne and thank you so much for your updates.
Isn't it amazing how God has worked, because of Ed you can come along side of Ruthanne with quite a bit of insight into what is going on and what she is going thru.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2017 18:49:19 GMT -5
Thank you so much for the info Cheryl.
All this time I was thinking the fluid was in her lungs and I was wondering how it was exactly related to her heart.
But the way you explained it helped a lot.
So is the fluid build up then from the body reacting to the surgery to her heart?
I am trying to understand why there is fluid build up in the first place, I am thinking it might be like if I took a needle and continued to poke a hole in my finger, and then stopped, the body would start immediate repairs, but part of that might involved my finger swelling, getting red ( and of course maybe infection)?
Is it anything like that? It would seem baring a massive infection, with time, the fluid will stop because the body will have finished its repairs??
In any case, I will continue to pray for Ruthanne and thank you so much for your updates.
Isn't it amazing how God has worked, because of Ed you can come along side of Ruthanne with quite a bit of insight into what is going on and what she is going thru.
But, the body will retain fluids, especially in a medically invasive case of open heart surgery, during the healing process. But when there is excess fluid build up, it has to be drained to prevent further complications. (the procedure is referred to as Thoracentesis) And in Ruthanne's case, (as with Ed's) the complication will result in her lung collapsing. But, in meantime, she isn't getting the proper blood flow to her heart and that will cause another heart attack. And if she doesn't have immediate attention, it will lead to death.
Sorry to be so blunt, but it's very serious. And she has been in this 'immediate attention' situation. And the ONLY reason she is still with us, is because our Lord is taking care of her. There is no other explanation. But, we all know that our Lord is our Master Physician and His timing is perfect.
Through all our prayers, Ruthanne is going to come out of this with flying colors and in our Lord's Glory, and OH the testimonies she will have to share! Praise be to HIM! 
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Post by fearnot on Mar 5, 2017 14:00:36 GMT -5
Thank you soooooo much for that excellent explanation Cheryl!!!
Some times when meeting a new doctor, I have had to fill out a questionnaire or am asked in person:
How much information would you like about ------- ( whatever the problem).
They may say do you want just the bare bones basic or in detail.
I am a: " I want to know in detail".....because tho exactly like you say.....God is in total control
I still have the kind of mind that wants to know ( as much as can be known at this time) about whatever medical issue>
So I am so grateful for your taking the time and explaining what is happening to Ruthanne.
It in some ways helps to to better pray...of course, the Lord being with her, comforting her ( her spiritual health ) is first,
but it helps me to also ask more specific petitions on a purely physical or emotional etc. level to God.
So again thank you
Not to mention, I just was truly wondering the whys and whats is happening to her.
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Post by ruthanne on Mar 5, 2017 21:32:56 GMT -5
Hello my dear friends.I am not supposed to be at the comp.so I won't be here long,but I want all of you to know how much I appreciate your thoughtfulness in keeping me in prayer,even when it seems I am fighting myself.Please know the Lord is in control of all,especially me.I may rebel when told something but the minute the Lord gets me alone He straightens me out and I don't wait for the proverbial 2x4,lol.Been there,done that.I really need prayers tonight cause I woke up short of breath this morning.It usually doesn't happen til 10 or 11:00 pm.So please pray I can make it til 12:30 tomorrow as everyone knows what er's are like.I am staying off the phone as I am so short on breath.But I have let my family know to be aware and my sil Deloris is taking me.We haven't heard from Robin since Thursday,personally.but she is ok.She texted to ask about Levi.
My other sil,the RN asked her friends who work in the heart area and they told her one way to fix me is to put a tube in my chest and blow powder in to seal the leak as it must be small to take a week to build up.Any hosp stay should be short so praise God.I trust Him with my life.Thank you everyone and thank you so much Cheryl.Barb was so right,having you here to know what I am talking about and explaining things to me has been a God thing.Especially with the pain she is in physically and more importantly ,emotionally.I pray I will be able to help her in her time of need,when she gets smacked in the face with a grief attack.Thank God He has big shoulders and strong arms,cause they sure help at those times.Love you all,Ruthanne
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Post by bystillwaters on Mar 6, 2017 7:41:57 GMT -5
Thank goodness the Lord is with you sister..... Sounds like that hospital knows whats what... We are praying for you and for a complete recovery... Praying in the Name of Jesus Christ.. Amen.
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Post by fearnot on Mar 6, 2017 12:57:49 GMT -5
Thank you for your post Ruthanne..........even tho......
you were not supposed to!
Still, it was good to hear, there are some cures ( and you can avoid the 2 x 4....
I too have been there, and done that....
no need for a refresher in 2 by 4 ism LOL
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Post by ruthanne on Mar 6, 2017 16:26:49 GMT -5
Hi all.I am finally home and have the best news.No fluid build-up at all so no more Mon. morning trips to Jonesboro!My body has started assimilating the fluid on it's own!I am so grateful to God and to all of my prayer warriors.Thank you so much and our God is an awesome God!I was even able to walk without my walker all the way down the hill to the parking place and then on to the car with Deloris and was hardly out of breath.
It has been exactly one month since my surgery and tomorrow I schedule re-hab.Almost done people,oh yeah.
I couldn't have come this far this fast without the Lord answering all our prayers.And I can't thank you enough,Love Ruthanne
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2017 5:55:19 GMT -5
Hi all.I am finally home and have the best news.No fluid build-up at all so no more Mon. morning trips to Jonesboro!My body has started assimilating the fluid on it's own!I am so grateful to God and to all of my prayer warriors.Thank you so much and our God is an awesome God!I was even able to walk without my walker all the way down the hill to the parking place and then on to the car with Deloris and was hardly out of breath.
It has been exactly one month since my surgery and tomorrow I schedule re-hab.Almost done people,oh yeah.
I couldn't have come this far this fast without the Lord answering all our prayers.And I can't thank you enough,Love Ruthanne  Ruthanne, I was praying for you. When you didn't call after you got home, I got worried..........then I gave it to the Lord. Thank you Lord!! The Lord put it in my heart that you were very tired from the travel, and needed your rest. Call me when you feel up to it. I'm so happy that your lungs and heart are now on the mend!! And with the PT, you'll get even better. |
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Post by Brother Mark on Mar 8, 2017 0:51:19 GMT -5
Praise the Lord for answered prayers. Continuing to lift you Up in our prayers. Your road to recovery has finally began. Now do not over do. Take care and God Bless.
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Post by bystillwaters on Mar 9, 2017 7:04:19 GMT -5
It is joyous news to hear that you are on the mend ...Our Lord is truly our physician...We are praying for your continued improvement and total recovery in the Name of Jesus Christ.... Amen...
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Post by ruthanne on Mar 10, 2017 17:02:10 GMT -5
He is indeed the best Dr! thank you all for your loving care of me.Sometimes,believe it or not it has kept me from quite a few pity parties.With Jesus and the best family in this world or the next who could feel self-pity?Well,I can ,lol,but only for the moment,love y'all,Ruthanne
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Post by Brother Mark on Mar 13, 2017 11:35:31 GMT -5
Prayers Going Up
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Post by fearnot on Mar 14, 2017 12:52:37 GMT -5
I would have posted sooner but FH has been up and down LOL
So happy to hear you are doing better Ruthanne, will keep praying for you of course and Spring will be coming along one of these days which may also be uplifting...to us all.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2017 0:40:24 GMT -5
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